I am against violence of any kind because I am a true follower of Mahatma Gandhi. I know very well that nowhere violence has shown any positive result. Whether it is a small colony , city or village where ever people are violent that place is deprived of progress. A family where all the members daily fight with one another , it never happens that children of that family are in involved in any creative activity. Healthy environment is the first requirement for any kind of progress.

Whatever children see in their families they try to learn the same , in the same way children treat others in the same way as they are always treated. Actually children learn from their surrounding ,a child often beaten in home or school will definitely think that there is nothing bad in beating or being beaten. When he grows up then whenever he will not be satisfied by anyone's work or will be displeased by anyone he will show his reaction by beating the one because of whom he is displeased or upset. If the same child had been explained everything with love and patience he would have shown his reaction in the adverse condition in the same way means he would have treated others with love and patience. I was never beaten or insulted in my childhood ,in place of it I was always admired by members of family, relatives and neighbours. Because of it I never insult anyone nor do I show anyone inferior. I have never beaten my child and she is always proud of this thing that like other mothers her mother does not believe in beating children. She also thinks that only illiterate mothers beat their children. If we really want to do progress then we will always have to keep one thing in mind that voilence is the cause of downfall of any person.

 

It is very easy to make friends but it is very hard to maintain friendship. Many times we make friends and forget to think this that what is the real meaning of friendship. I feel very bad when I see some people making fun of their friends . If one has any problem or objection with anything he should directly talk to his friend about it. Should not one feel pain of being insulted. Whenever some one makes fun of us we feel insulted , if we remember our pain then we will never want to give that kind of pain to our friend. If you want to continue your friendship with your friends for a long time then stop making fun of them.

 

One thing is very strange about my nature in place of being inspired by the characters of any movie or serial I am very much inspired by those people whom I meet in any public place. I love to talk to strangers and I never hesitate before initiating talks with any one. I find strangers very interesting and I love talking to them. Once I was travelling by bus with my mother in law and sister in law. One lady came and sat beside me , she was a french lady. Both of us started talking and in a very less time I could discuss many things with her , we were talking in english. My mother in law may not have liked all that because in my in law's family daughters are supposed to be dumb and deaf means they are not supposed to show their reaction of any kind. She tried to demoralised me so in our reagional language she asked me whether that lady was my mausi with whom I was enjoying the talks. I could easily understand her intentention but instead of feeling bad I replied that I often meet such aunts and I love to talk to them . My sister in law was very happy to see me talking in english. I never lose chance to gather information through such conversations. I think making friends anywhere makes me more aware and knowledgeable. No one in my in law's family like this habit of mine but I do not care and why should I . I can never remain dumb and deaf.

What is real meaning of education? Do people ever try to know? Most of the people think that education is directly related to employment but they do not know that it may not be true every time. Education actually means that one becomes more aware after acquiring knowledge. A villager may know how to grow crops but if he is educated means he has studied agriculture then he can increase yield of the crops without harming quality of the soil.

I am very fortunate as I have a circle of such friends who really feel my joy and sorrow, as it happens with all my life is also full of problems but I never have to worry because my friends are always there to support me. My mother is my best friend , she always keeps on filling energy in me. My daughter is my inspiration ,these days she is also just like friend to me. The best thing about my daughter is that she is my mirror image in every sense. She inspires me to do all that that has always been my dream. My other intellectual friends are so nice that whatever I write they approve it with no objection . I remember once my friend read my article and replied that my thoughts were same as hers. She even said that I was like a magician who could read her mind. Problems are part of every one's life is a well known fact but when one has supporters and admirers then they act like painkillers as it happens with me. Touch woo may god give long life and lots of power to my friends so that they can keep energising all the near and dear ones.

It is raining today and temperature has again come down, those who were ready to welcome summer are sad and those who were sad as they were planning to say good bye to their dear winter with heavy heart they are happy that winter postponed its plan. I am the one who love winter, I had not packed my woolen with this hope that it may change its mind and stay with us for some more days. I am happy as I will not have to worry about my outings which I had planned. My good days are still with me . Thanks god for prolonging my good days.

There is nothing bad in helping anyone but one thing should always be kept in mind that the one is being helped is not losing power of doing work he is supposed to do. Self efforts are essential if one wants to have power to create anything. Following anyone may not be so bad as copying anyone is. My daughter may be mirror image of mine but it never happened that she tried to copy me. She was shown the way but was never made to walk on any certain path. She was always given liberty to chose her own way. May be she observed me through her own way and decided which way to follow. When my daughter was very small and children of my friends were studying in higher class then I often used to listen from my friends about pressure on them of exam of their kids. They always had excuses because of unit tests , mid term exam and final exam. I never had to worry about any exam till now. Teach your child how to walk but never hold his hand while walking with him . His dependence on you may not make him confident. This is what I think others may not agree with me but this is what I have experienced in my life.

I am firm believer of god and know very well what god wants me to do I have to do whether I like it or not. He creates such type of circumstances that automatically I do it. I may have done many such tasks which were not liked by me at that time when I was doing but later same work became my favourite and I start feeling proud that I could prove myself by doing them. Should not I be free from all the tensions of life because god is with me to help me in searching solutions of every kind of tension.

 

When I meet people of my biradari I consider myself very lucky but when I am forced to be with those who do not belong to my biradari then I feel so bad that I start feeling suffocated. I may not be so much attracted by materialistic world but world of intellactuals always attracts me. I seldom admire or get impressed by beauty of any person but intelligence of any person compells me to go to that person and share the thoughts. I have many intellectual friends who are very much dear to me . I have always spent quality time these friends.

I believe in telepathy and at the same time I also believe in a caste system which is of totally different type. I am a brahmin and think this is not by choice as according to me being brahmin does not mean that all the brahmins will have same type of qualities. I have divided whole world into two castes, one is of intelligents and another of non intelligents. I find myself in first category and all of those who belong to this category are my dear ones. There is telepathy among people of same level and so who ever are of my level get connected to me by some or other means.

People say that it is necessary to follow the traditions of the society. No one wants to do any such work for which he can be criticised. People do not like critisism so they do what others do. There are some people who wish to bring change in the society in which they live, they do not care what people say about them. They are criticised but they are least affected by it because they know their purpose is to do good for others. One day comes when so called reformers are awarded for the work they did. Every one should welcome change in possitive direction then only progress can take place.

Deep frying to shallow frying

My grandmother was an educated lady and she belonged to jameendar(land lord )  family so she always used to make fun of those people who used to cook food in less oil or ghee. She used to call them daridra (poor one) as for her food cooked in less oil could not have been tasty. She was well known for her deep frying. In our home we never used to eat baati , chokha or roasted dishes. Once when my uncle suffered from paralytic attack , I remember comment of one doctor, who was our neighbour , she said " chachiji ki kadhai chadhi rehti thi ye usi ka nateeja hai ". I could not understand why she commented like this but now I can understand . That doctor was a gujrati lady and being a doctor knew very well that what  the disadwantages of eating fried food are. Our whole family is educated but fried food is favourite of all. I do not understand one thing and it is what can be the relation between education and eating habits. India is known for her rich food and indians are fond of eating different kind of dishes in every festival . No function can be complete without different tasty dishes and no good dish can be cooked without oil ,ghee or butter. Samosas and gulab jamuns are favourite of all and all know very well that both can not be cooked without deep frying. I was telling about my grandmother and what she thought about those people who used to eat either roasted or food with less oil, for her such people belonged to either poor families or were very miser. These days trend is of different type ,those who want to show that they are well educated so they are health conscious, they avoid deep frying and prefer shallow frying. Some even avoid shallow frying and for them gas fryer is in market means frying with no oil . What would my grand mother have said about such people had she been alive. I have non stick pans and kadai , I also have microwave but seldom do I prefer shallow frying as I do not like the taste of food which is not cooked after deep frying. I do not want to be considered poor or miser. This is different thing that I am suffering from high blood pressure and am a diabitic. I am not a conservative person and I love change in every field but I can not shift from deep frying to shallow frying.

I find myself very safe when I am inside mosquito net because neither is  there any side effect of mosquito net nor there is any big investment. Once you buy it you can use it for many years. I even suggest my friends that if they want to enjoy sound sleep with no disturbance then they must use mosquito net. It is different thing that modern people do not want to use it because for them so many options are available in the market , they only have to keep spending money and they can enjoy sleep without disturbance. All know very well that there are many side effects of sprays etc. which are used to get rid of mosquitos but who cares. A very simple answer is there , when everything is harmful then let this also show its harm. Actually mosquito net is old fashioned and those who love freedom for them it is not a good solution as they feel suffocated when they sleep inside the mosquito net. 

To have faith in The God means you have faith in yourself.  The God is within you. You may not be able to see Him or may not be able to feel Him but His way is of this type that automatically He makes you feel on some or other day that what relation you have with Him. The God is very great but He does not make you realize his greatness. Only that person can recognize Him who has seen his every problem being solved. That feeling when in the darkness of problems he is not in condition to see anything  and that ray of hope which removes the darkness. The God whom you have trusted clears the difference between both the feelings. He pays you price of your trust. It is foolishness to test The God. It is the doubt of your mind. If you have doubt then God may not let you know this that he is with you every moment. Faith in The God is the cause of your success. When the God tests you that time also He knows that you have to pass that exam. The God makes you realize that though he is within you but it does not mean this that you don’t have to go through tests. You are compelled to live every moment of the life. God leaves you in a big ocean. You think that you will drown but the rope with which you are joined /associated The God holds its last end. The moment you are about to drown at the same moment The God pulls that rope/ string. Only the people having faith in the God enjoy that pleasure when they are being pulled out from ocean of problems. The God does not let you drown He knows that when the string has to be pulled but the God Himself does not do this work he sends one “Masiha”/ (savior) who saves you from every problem. It is the greatness of The God that he does not take credit of any work but it is the feeling of that person who knows that The God is within him. He will free/ liberate him from every problem. Many times duration of bearing sorrow is long but it definitely has end at some or other point.

Role of facilities in life

These days children are (provided) given many types of facilities so that they can become one nice educated person. Whether children are able to take benefit of all the facilities or not it will be little bit difficult to tell this. But my thinking is of little bit different type. How can it be possible to make any person nice through facilities. Suppose you bought a computer for your child you want your child to learn something good through computer but what happens? Does your child use computer for any creative work. Does he watch movie, songs on the computer. Does he do typing through computer. How he uses computer this decides he is of which type. Bike, computer, mobile, internet etc are made available to children with this thought that children will use them for enhancing children but often just opposite happens. After getting bike children unnecessarily keep on wandering with friends. After getting mobile they are busy in doing S.M.S whole time and internet is used only for watching movies and songs. I am against giving facilities to children, others can escape by saying this but this is totally wrong. I want children to get facilities and they make right use of them. If they have got the bike then they can go to school, college, tution class by bike. They can save their time and energy. Though there is nothing bad in walking but many times in big cities schools, colleges, tution classes all are very far from home and long time is spent they also get tired so having bike is proved beneficial. If computer and internet is used for studies then children will be benefitted through computer. If children learn designing, photo shop animation then it will help them in earning money. Along with studies they can also start earning money. Through computer children can also do typing and can also do typing and can easily make project of school and college. Mobile should be used at that time when either you want to know something from someone or want to tell something to someone. By writing S.M.S children spoil their language. Parents feel very happy when they buy costly things for their children. They feel by giving all that to their children they discharged their responsibility. Many times this is in people’s mind that when they were students that time facilities were not available. They were deprived of many golden opportunities in lack of facilities and now facilities will make their kids capable and they will easily be able to climb ladder of success. Parents should always keep one thing in mind. No machine is better than mind no progress is bigger than (moral values) (ethis) sanskars. What is the use of having sanskars when we do not let our mind use them. Let the mind take benefit of facilities do not let facilities dominate the mind.  

Computer

You can see computer in every home and it is necessary to have Internet with computer. Effect on others is good when you are in front of the computer. Earlier I used to think computer is used for acquiring knowledge, with the same thought I also bought computer. I used computer according to my need as I am a writer so I started typing my writings along with it I also tried to preserve some of my photographs. Computer is a machine (device) which can help you in many creative works but when I see people around me then I feel they have nothing to do with creativity. For them to have computer means to have source of watching movies and listening to songs. It is nothing more than a CD player. I am totally against entertainment I do not mean to say this but to use computer of Rs. 30,000 OR 20,000 only for entertainment it will be little bit difficult for me to accept this thing. I am also using it only as a type writer. In my childhood my father used to say “everything is in this world but idle man gets nothing” Tulsi Das said this. This is totally right. People cannot make excuse of not having money because they buy such a costly computer. They have internet which is encyclopedia means people have ocean of knowledge but what one is able to take out from such a big ocean only songs and movies. If your purpose is not to acquire knowledge then it will be in your habit to make any excuse. What do people living near ocean take from ocean it depends on them. Ocean is ready to give everything effort should be yours. Poor less educated parents are unaware of every new technique. They do not know how expert their kids are in making them fool! What the child sitting in front of computer is doing they do not even try to know this. Computer, internet, etc, even after having every facility if child is unable to write letter of one page then it cannot be fault of computer. Before using computer if language used by computer is learned then in that condition computer can be used nicely. Internet is not only for online shopping. Through internet you can know important things. It will be very easy to share knowledge if right use of computer is made. Though choice of every person is different someone loves knowledge and another one likes entertainment. We cannot compell anyone to change the choice. We should not even make effort to do so otherwise people will start disliking us.

Freedom of birds

                      

Life of the birds is free. They have freedom to go anywhere. Their wings help them and it is possible for them to be able to fly. It is habit of every person to feel happy by seeing birds but do people thinking like this ever want to think this that birds have to pay a big cost of it. Birds do not get ready made home, food etc. Daily early in the morning birds come out of their nest in search of food. They have to make even nest after doing labour. Though by seeing a nest a common man may feel that it is made of useless things but if we think seriously then we will realize that how difficult it may have been to collect useless things. How can it be simple thing to know art of making nest? Man’s nature is totally different whole time he keeps on thinking this thing that how to capture belongings\assets  of others. Man spends whole life in thinking this that how to collect a lot of property. When he makes effort to achieve everything after doing labour then people admire him but when encroachment is his purpose then he starts losing his self respect. It should be necessary for every creature to collect his own food and he should have capability of being able to make his own home then only we will be able to take benefit of freedom like birds. Independence is many times better than slavery even after knowing this we like to remain slave. If we like to admire any nice quality then we should keep on making constant effort to get good quality. On some or other day we will find that we too have all that that is admirable.

Woman and respect

It is women’s day today and all the women should get special respect today. It is a thing of proud to be a woman because woman is form of power. It is another thing that no lady considers herself powerful. She feels that she cannot be powerful. What is the cause of it? It is necessary to know it. A woman is not able to recognize her power because every time she is made to realize this that she is weak and she needs support. Why she is weak no one is ready to tell this to her. A woman does not have permission to come out from the home. What happens outside the home she is not allowed to know this. Her family and some neighbours same are the whole world for her. When she does not come to know that what is happening in the world then how can she imagine those incidents which occur in the whole world and when any lady does not know this that adverse conditions are of which type then how can she prepare herself for that situation in which in order to save her existence she may have to do struggle. Those who go to the battle field they know that attitude of enemy is of which type but those who do not know that how the battle field is, how they can know attitude of the enemy. If a lady has desire to recognize her power then she should make effort to see the world. It is foolishness to make effort to know the world through T.V. cinema, magazine or novels. Because when lady gets chance to know the world then only she can prepare herself for that battle where she can use her power. “Maa Durga” is inside every lady but she waits for that time when the lady feels her presence and takes inspiration from her.

God and problem

When people feel problem then they remember the GOD. Why is the GOD remembered only at the time of problem? Is there any special relationship between the GOD and problem? If there is no pain/problem in the world then will not the GOD be remembered? I think in a different way. My thinking is that  GOD is remembered only at the time of problem because the GOD is the one giving the problem and only the GOD can show us way to overcome problem. One who has got opportunity to feel/see the GOD only he can tell how one giving problem liberated/freed him from the problem. How nice the way of liberating was. How pleasant that feeling was when he was liberated. How pleasant/what a pleasant that touch was which he experienced. When the GOD touches us in problem then we realize that how kind he is, how lovable his way of touching us is. Every sorrow of the world vanishes with one touch of the GOD. Sorrow is changed into joy. Now you may have understood that why I said that It is necessary to have sorrow. Had there been no sorrow in the world then no human being would have got opportunity to meet the GOD. It is the moment of sorrow which brings us close to the GOD. Imagine that world where there is no place for sorrow, everywhere there is only joy but how this joy is which is without the GOD. World of sorrow is many times better than the world of joy. At least there is a hope that at some or other time the GOD would definitely come to finish sorrow. At some or other time person suffering from sorrow would definitely get opportunity to meet the GOD. How delighted he will be by experiencing presence of the GOD.